After a busy week of hosting beautiful events and personal coaching here in the Okanagan Valley, I can only be in awe about how these events fill me with gratitude. And this is only the beginning…
I meet people all the time. They’re busy living their lives. Managing their daily chores and simultaneously trying to find meaning, and sometimes working on overcoming old pains or even trauma. That’s quite a challenge, because we’re often stuck in old patterns. But we only have 24 hours a day to manage our activities.
When we feel overwhelmed with life, we have the tendency to just push through, and forget about what really bothers us, because we don’t know how to make lasting changes. But there’s a little voice inside, that wants to connect us with our true purpose. We listen sometimes, but it’s just too far out of our comfort zone to truly take the time, listen and act. So we choose to focus on something that makes us feel good — a bucket list for example, because we know that the clock is ticking, and at least we’re focused on some of our deeper desires.
What’s on your bucket list?
I bet that several exotic destinations are on it. And maybe skydiving? Or climbing a specific mountain? Driving that one car? Buying a dream home with a pool?
I have to admit something to you—I am boring. I don’t have a bucket list. I am so boring, that I even don’t know what I would change, if I were to win the lottery today.
I might be boring, but in general, I am very happy and grateful. I like to think of myself as a ‘happy kid’, because I still see myself as a little child. No, I don’t see myself like that, I really feel it.
Maybe it’s because life has taught me to be grateful for what I have – right now. I have known losses in my family, illness, insecurities and sadness. These events have taught me that there’s only one moment that you can be alive. That’s now!
My Reverse Bucket List
Being grateful for all of who I am, and for all that I have, made me think of a drawing up a reverse bucket list. It was so easy, and some of the experiences that came up are these:
– Travelling in the Alps with my family when I was a little boy
– Riding my red (first) bike
– Making fires after school
– Sleepovers at my grandma’s
– Driving my first car — a red beetle
– Meeting my love at high school
– Traveling all over the world
– The decision to emigrate to Canada
– Realizing my childhood dream — becoming a ski patroller
– Unconditional friendships with so many amazing people
– Hiking the West Coast Trail
– Stroll the beaches, and surf on Maui
– Permanently living in nature
– Every day doing the things that I love to do
I feel myself glowing after writing down my reverse bucket list. It makes me realize that I am very grateful for all that I have experienced so far. You have probably read a lot about the health effects of gratitude. It has an enormous positive impact on our immune system for example.
But it’s often fairly easy to be grateful when things are going our way. Did you realize that expressing gratitude during challenging times is even more powerful and helps us transcend our limited self. We now begin to experience that the true purpose of life is much grander than our physical self and our personal desires. We feel that we came here on purpose and not just by accident. This is beautiful because we’re making a shift in our own pattern – from reacting to the circumstances in our life, to beginning to understand the true message that we’ve been given. It’s moving us from our head to our heart.
One of the most effective ways to make this shift is to start practicing HeartMath on a regular basis. By repatterining your hard wired internal processes a tremendous shift starts taking place. If you live in the Okanagan Valley you can join me for a 3-hour HeartMath class on April 29. I also train people HeartMath online.
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This is a great idea, Dirk, and so in line with how I know you are–warm, grateful, and always focusing on what is available, rather than what is not.
It’s funny, when I first saw this title, I thought you were going to make a list of things you absolutely did not want to do before the end of your life, which didn’t seem very Dirk-ey at all. So, you can imagine I’m smiling and laughing all the way.
I’m going to share this post with my tribes. I think they’ll love this exercise. Thank you!
Hey dear friend! 🙂 So nice to hear from you, and thank you for sharing your thoughts. You make me smile. Hope you’re well and I like to have a chat with you whenever you feel to.
Thank you for sharing this Dirk.I am happy to hear you speak of this as I thought to myself as I watched the part of the film when the family was looking at their daughters bucket list, I don’t have a list ? Do I not have desires,or dreams,or am I so depressed that I cant. Imagine it,or lazy or…. Then as I read your words here I felt a feeling of peace come over me. Yes that is it Dirk I am so grateful and thankful for all that is and all that you are , all that I am , being present here upon our beautiful Mother Earth,feeling this Love. This fills my bucket.
I truly enjoyed meeting you and Troy in Vernon. It is so beautiful and Inspiring to hear stories from the Heart. We have created such a complicated chaotic world from something that could be so simple, so pure,so peaceful.
Thank you Dirk and Troy and may you be blessed to continue on your Journey to touch the lives of so many through stories of the Heart
Thank you Darcy, for your story and for your very kind words. I totally agree with you. When we are truly living in the present moment, we will automatically touch the lives of others. That’s why we are here – to support and to cooperate. Hope to see you some time again.
All with balance.
Check out Ken Wilbur’s novel, “Boomeritis.” He tells why we should also be grateful for what our ancestors have done. Try to understand our own past, especially the difficult parts. Without looking back these ways, we cannot advance. Hence, “Boomeritis,” the “me” generation, stuck in its own glorification.
Hi Don. Many thanks for reaching out to me, and for the cool tip. Looks very interesting. Will check it out. I couldn’t agree more with Ken. We consciously or subconsciously created our own story, we start believing in it, and we are even prepared to defend it. It’s good to know when we started adopting it and what it could teach is. But in the end, it’s just a story. Cheers!!