We live in a world that lets us believe that we’re somebody else. I don’t say that there’s something wrong with this world – we have however, collectively bought into concepts and beliefs that do not reflect the truth of who we really are.
So we go through life pretending we’re somebody else. We can do this for a very long time, for an entire lifetime sometimes, but these concepts and beliefs will no longer serve us when we’re going through difficult times. Suddenly we begin to realize how fake and useless they actually are, and then we become scared, because it seems that we’ve nothing to fall back on. Our ‘virtual reality’ which has become our truth, has been shattered.
“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain
This is usually the moment, when you crave to be more real as you begin to understand that the ‘old self’ is merely a collection of memories, experiences and conditioning. Yes, you’ve lived them and experienced them, but they’re not you of course. This process is often very painful and confrontational, because you begin to question almost everything, and you just can’t believe that this has been your truth for so long.
Blaming others and circumstances only works for a short while (unless you keep fooling yourself), because you begin to see a much larger picture, that isn’t just black and white, but contains a full array of colours. Colours of understanding and (self)compassion. In the more spiritual circles they call this ‘the journey’. Personally, I work with this all the time, when helping those with PTSD – uncovering the truth of who they really are. It can be a difficult process, but it is also the most beautiful and rewarding process you can ever experience.
Your future comes with a new awareness
We are now living in incredible times, and we have the opportunity to witness a global collision of two worlds: The old world that no longer serves us. A world of separation, of mental and physical borders, of religious limitations and spiritual boundaries. And there’s the new world that emerges: A world of freedom, of connection, of personal responsibility and collective power.
Thanks to the many challenges in our lives, we are developing a new awareness that has the capacity to propel us into a new and more meaningful future. We are also blessed with new technology, interconnectivity and personal tools and values, to transcend these challenges. As long as technology doesn’t control our lives, it’s a beautiful development. Through social media for example, people start listening more to each other in stead of to their leaders with their political agenda – we move from separation to a deeper connection.
Even though you probably feel overwhelmed, I personally believe that the secret lies in hitting the brakes, really slowing down and understanding ourselves better. One of my beloved teachers once told me that you can be peaceful and fulfilled only if you are authentic and honest with yourself. And if you are authentically kind, if you are authentically powerful, and hold on to what is your truth, and hold dear, you will be called upon to demonstrate this in action, not only in thought.
For the planet to emerge into a more harmonious place, she needs you. She needs you to be bold and real! No matter what others think of your change in attitude or trajectory in life. Do you have that courage to be truly you?
Maybe you feel inspired to watch a talk I recently gave for Unity of Vancouver: Radiating Care.
From working with veterans who are suffering from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), I’ve become even more fascinated with the relationship between human emotions and our physiology. It’s amazing to witness how events that once deeply impacted us on an emotional level, can completely change our hearing and eyesight, the way our heart beats, our muscle function, and the way our brains process all incoming information. One single traumatic experience, let’s say fifteen years ago, has the capacity to change the quality of our lives forever.
When you have a basic understanding of the energetics of trauma, you might know that it’s not the event that’s negatively impacting our system. It’s how we perceived the event in the first place, and how the continuous energetic connection with that past event keeps us trapped in the past. Our body literally lives in the past. That’s why the physical responses are so intense and real – The body cannot distinguish the difference between the memory and a real experience. Most of us have the capacity to reason like: “That happened then, and it was very traumatic, but I am safe now.” Those who suffer from (severe) PTSD mostly don’t have that capacity, and their body reacts like they’re back in the trenches witnessing a horrific scene.
But it’s not just severe trauma or PTSD that keeps preventing us from living in the present moment. Most people that I know do not live in the present moment, most of the time. We experience some kind of stress in our lives without even realizing it. Whether we worry about our future finances, feel victimized by others, hold on to what our spouse once said to us, or because we subconsciously feel that we’re not following our true passion in life.
Living in stress means that we’re not balanced and that we are not fully present. There’s a friction between our deepest desires, and the way we currently experience life. Right now.
So far, I have been talking about the way we respond to external events in our lives. It seems that we have adopted the belief that life is happening to us, and we try to manage the best we can. That’s what we have been taught when we were little. That’s what our friends and family, and our culture keep reaffirming to us. We have practiced this often enough that it has become our state (of mind).
But what if I told you that life is never happening to you. This might be your perception, but life is actually responding to you.
You are made up of about 50 trillion cells. Each one of these cells is affected by their environment. Between the actual environment, and the cells that make up your body, there’s a filter – your interpretation of the environment. The cells in your body are not going to respond to the actual events in your life, but they will respond to your interpretation of these events. Each cell has surface receptors (membrane receptors) and they’re like the cells’ antennas). In biochemistry, a receptor is a protein molecule that receives signals from outside a cell. When such signals bind to a receptor, they cause some form of cellular/tissue response, e.g. a change in the electrical activity of a cell. Simply said: “The 50 trillion cells in your body listen 24/7, to what you feel and think, and they start behaving accordingly.”
Maya Angelou “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
And to add one more thing to the confusion, life around you is also responding to the same energetic signals that you emit, because the process that I just described is not limited to your own body. This also explains why energy healing has been used effectively for thousands of years. And the same principle forms the foundation for the work that I do with HeartMath. Now you begin to better understand that life is literally responding to you.
Master your own magnificence
In stead of focusing on what’s going on outside of you, it’s much more effective to start paying attention to how you respond to these events. Once you begin to become aware of how you feel and the way you respond, you have opened up the possibility to change. When you start talking differently to your cells, stop complaining, and begin to take back your own powers to heal and grow, your cellular structure literally starts changing as well.
During my events, we focus exactly on the process of changing your energy, and it is a very powerful process. During my upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, from Nov 27 – Dec 2, we dive really deep into this amazing adventure of healing and transformation. In case you want to join me and the other teachers, you might want to sign up now, because on August 27 the early bird rate ($200 discount per person) will end.
Why don’t you take some more time for yourself by just becoming still. There’s nothing you have to do in particular. When you start quieting the mind, you begin to tap into the innate wisdom of your intuition and answers will come to you. It’s the art of mastering your own magnificence. In case you need a bit of help, feel free to download my free ebooks ‘The Little Blue Breathing Book’ and the ‘Purple Personal Purpose Book”. And if you feel drawn to what I have shared with you, I just released my first album containing an hour of heart coherence meditations! You can purchase it by clicking on the button below.